Our Mops 2015 year has officially kicked off! We were encouraged and enlightened at our January meetings (8th and 22nd). Brad Thomas, Lead Pastor with Austin Ridge Bible, spoke to us about Eunice (A no excuses momma) and Marilyn Ingram tackled the mysteries of mother-in-law relationships (or lack of) with her discussion titled “Learn the dance.”
I am reminded of your sincere faith, a faith that dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice and now, I am sure, dwells in you as well. 2 Timothy 1:5
Brad started off our year with an encouraging message about how Eunice was able to raise Timothy to honor God, despite the fact that she was married to a Godless husband. Her story has been influential not only to mommies, but to pastors for centuries. Brad says, one of the greatest purposes for a mom is to produce a man/woman that is Godly, purposeful, trustworthy and spiritual.
But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have firmly believed, knowing from whom you learned it and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. 2 Timothy 3:14-15
Brad asked each of us to think about one question; Is what you speak, what your kids see in your actions and your heart? He believes we should be mindful of our faith and not phony. In the verse above, Paul wants Timothy to go upward spiritually in a world that is declining. Many of us personally struggle with how this can be done. Brad teaches that dedicating your child to God on a daily basis can be a good starting point.
During our second meeting of the year we heard uplifting words from Marilyn Ingram, Women’s ministry director at Austin Ridge. She began with saying, “being a daughter-in-law is work.” She urged each of us to look for ways to spend time with our mother-in-law, warning us that what we enjoy doing with our own mom, may not be enjoyable to our MIL. She says to be mindful that you will go through an adjustment period.
Learn the dance- The simple believes everything, but the prudent gives thought to his steps. Proverbs 14:15
If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Romans 12:18
Therefore welcome one another as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God. Romans 15:7
Marilyn says we must understand that our MIL may be grieving the loss of her son to his wife and that pride can oftentimes stand in the way of a new relationship blossoming. Or maybe, we just have unrealistic expectations. In any case, we should always try to remember these three points;
Assume the best
- Take the high road- going directly to your MIL with issues
- Respond to God instead of reacting to circumstances
But avoid irreverent babble, for it will lead people into more and more ungodliness. 2 Timothy 2:16
For more insight Marilyn recommends the following books:
Mother-in-Law Dance by Annie Chapman (here)
Reluctantly Related (secrets to getting along w/ your MIL) by De Anna Brand (here)
The 12 Sacred Traditions of Magnificent MIL by Haywood Smith (here)