On Thursday, January 21, 2016, MOPS welcomed Cherie Werner. By the end of January, a lot of moms are reconsidering our New Years’ resolutions. 75% of people keep their resolutions past the first week. 71% past 2 weeks. And only 64% make it past one month. Losing weight and shaping up are 2 of the top 5 resolutions every year. But Cherie came to talk about a different kind of shaping up – A Spiritual S.H.A.P.E. Up and Thrive!
Spiritually: An intimate relationship requires time spent together. “A woman who has been in the presence of her God over and over again will eventually begin to reflect His light and know His ways and hear His voice.” -Sally Clarkson. Spend time with God. Read or listen to His word. Read a verse, a chapter, a book. Try a reading plan on YouVersion app or check out a blog like She Reads Truth. Listen to whatever is true, pure, and lovely: Worship music, sermons via Podcast, or the Bible. Try reading or listening to Jesus Calling by Sarah Young. Then meditate on what you read or hear. Quiet your mind and ask the Holy Spirit for His perspective and direction. And remember to live for an audience of one!
Next thoughts: How are you growing in your faith during this busy season of motherhood?
Husbands: Here are 6 ways to grow with your husband in 2016.
- Keep romance alive. Date your mate. Even if your date is only in your backyard after the kids go to bed.
- Communicate daily. We all know how hard this can be with kids!
- Respect your husband. Love is not enough. Ask your husband, “What does respect look like for you?”
- Be committed, otherwise known as a covenant keeper.
- Invest in your marriage.
- Have sex!! Men spell love S-E-X.
Next thoughts: What marriage tip could you implement immediately?
Accountability: “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: if either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.” Ecclesiastes 4:9-10. God wants us to have accountability and mentorship with other women. Here are 6 qualities to look for when searching and praying for a M.E.N.T.O.R.
M: Motivates you to be more Christ-like.
E: Encourages and equips.
N: Never gives up on you or lets you give up on yourself.
T: Tells you the truth, even when it’s difficult.
O: Open arms to accept you as you are.
R: Really cares about you and your spiritual growth.
Next thoughts: Do you have a mentor or accountability partner in your life? If not, can you list three possible ladies and pursue them? And who are you mentoring?
Parenting: Here are 6 parenting must-dos for 2016.
- Watch your words! They are very powerful.
- Have dinner together.
- Build a legacy.
- Spend time together. Children spell love T-I-M-E.
- Have meaningful traditions. Traditions are invaluable as they are part of the glue that holds families together. They also give children a sense of security.
- Prepare to eventually let them go! (And prepare them to go.)
Next thoughts: What parenting tip could you implement immediately?
Etcetera: Here are 6 etceteras to do in 2016.
- Invest in yourself and grow. Your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who you have received from God. He is in you. 1 Corinthians 6:19.
- Slow down and simplify.
- Do what brings you pleasure.
- Seek professional help if you are overwhelmed. If you’re at the end of your rope, do more than just hold on.
- Eat well.
- What could you do to invest in yourself?
- I will read ___ books in 2016.
- I will listen to ___ Podcast or audio books monthly.
- I will attend __________ conference to develop my passion for _____________.
- How well are you nurturing yourself for your own health? Write down 3 things you will do now for YOU.
Cherie Werner is a mother to 3 daughters (ages 27, 25, & 14). She is passionate about spiritual growth, her husband, and her family. She loves to learn, and believes that the key to true success in relationships is loving others authentically. Cherie is keen on encouraging women in their roles as wives and mothers, It is her desire to help women become aware of the legacy that they want to leave behind by living intentional lives. Writing and speaking is a way for her to share what she has learned along the journey. She serves on the Advisory Boards of Elisa Pulliam’s More to Be and Sally Clarkson’s Whole-hearted & Mom Heart Ministries. Last year she received her certification as a life coach. You can learn more at http://thewerners.org/.