Highlights from Marilyn Ingram’s presentation to MOPS: September 1, 2011
The “B” Word – Balance
What does the silverware drawer of your life resemble? Is it simple and well organized? Or is overflowing without enough sections to hold everything?
We work so hard to achieve balance in our lives, but there are 3 potential problems with that:
- Balance is temporary
- Balance doesn’t always work (just gives us an illusion of having control in our lives)
- Balance isn’t that fun
“The less I have on my ‘to do’ list, the better mother I am.”
What do margins in a book do? They gives the reader some breathing room. Margins are the white space that surround everything else.
Sometimes our days looks like this, where everything is evenly balanced just like we’ve planned:
Those days are a rare gift! More often, things are a little jagged. Not quite the balance we’ve hoped for. Things pop up to which we must respond. Those days look more like this:
More important than striving for balance, we should strive to be centered. Starting our day by spending time with God (whether it’s five minutes or an hour), will give us our center for the day. Starting from the inside out, those days look like this:
Many times it’s easier to say “yes” to people than to tell them “no.” When someone asks for a time commitment from you, it’s ok to say you need to think about it for a day or two.
When you are considering an additional time commitment in your life:
- Talk to your husband – discuss the time commitment and the impact it would have on your family
- Look closely at your calendar
- Pray like crazy!
If you have trouble over-commiting, consider doing only ONE “extra” thing a day, whether that’s helping host a party at school, a trip to the salon, lunch with a friend. This will help keep the margins wide enough to deal with life’s pop-ups without becoming overwhelmed.